Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Fact or Fiction: The Platonic Male/Female Friendship


Does this relationship exist? If we look to Hollywood for answers, then the answer has to be a resounding no. Harry fucked Sally, Ross took Rachel's temperature, and I assume Patrick Dempsey did something he found disgusting to his female BFF in Made of Honor (the author had to quit watching when Dempsey described a restaurant as that "trendy place" and meant that as a compliment.) Hollywood finds a man's friendship with Big Foot more plausible than the male/female friendship. Is this really true? Are single men and women incapable of achieving the type of relationship that friendship icons Mase and Puffy shoulder shook their way to in mid 90's?





The answer is Hollywood might have this one right, but for the wrong reasons. Contrary to what Hollywood would have you believe, two attractive singles can laugh and have fun while mutually keeping it on the platonic level. Instead its our society that won't allow men to have strong friendships with women. For example, if a man becomes friends with a woman of equal or more attractive points, everyone whispers he is just waiting in the wings for her to slip up. No one wants to be THAT guy. And in the exact opposite scenario, a guy can't be friends with a fug because no matter what pretty girls say....they'll judge you and write you off as a fug fucker.

Even if that isn't true (it is), the dynamics of male friendships will absolutely forbid a strong and lasting friendship between a single male and female. You see male friendships aren't so much a relationship as they are a competition. Who can drink the most the quickest? Who can say the most disgusting thing at the wrong moment? These are the questions that male friendships are built on. And women smartly don't play that game.



4 comments:

  1. I think sigmund freud disagrees with you and agrees with hollywood on this one.

    oh by the way, how did your lunch date at ruggles go with giles? did you test out the ole theory? ;)

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  2. Breakin out Freud in an argument? Major no no convo turns into a exercise of futility.

    G Momma doesn't get the Ruggles treatment she gets the 9 o'clock El Ruchis on Richmond date where no one you know can spot you

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  3. While Diddy and Mace were great friends, nothing can compare to Diddy's love for Biggie.

    I thought I told ya that we won't stop.

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  4. Oh wow I didn't know the medical community had taken an interest.

    Your wrong, Puffy and Bigs had a great relationship. Until Ma$e came around. Finally Puffy could color coordinate jump suits with someone and had a friend he could go jet setting with. Biggie's weight restrictions prevented him from doing those activities.

    Some people say bullets killed Bigg E Smalls, I say he was already dead from a broken heart after he lost his bff Diddy.

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